Oh No, Please, Don’t Pick Up Your Shoes

What is chaos?  I’m glad you asked.

Chaos is the world around me.  I want things done a certain way.  I want things in their designated places.  Oh, but everyone does not share the same passion for organizing that I have. Enter chaos. 

If this is you…seek help from a professional Organizationologist STAT!

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Exhibit A: Shoes in the middle of the floor. Nothing in my mind says that smack dab in the floor’s center should lie a pair of shoes.

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Exhibit B: Empty cartons, boxes, bags, etc. strategically placed back in their spots. (NOW you know how to pick things up.)

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Exhibit C: Lights, Camera, Action! More like Lights, Television, Tablet! Every possible object powered be electricity or battery will be on in the room …simultaneously…occupied by none other than no one!

Looking for something in a chaotic room is just like trying to find Waldo.

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Exhibit D: I can’t find my… Fill in the blank with anything. Yes, anything and everything that is absolutely important to your current survival needs.  Of course you can’t find anything, because you put everything everywhere.

This is just the minor levels of chaos I encounter on a regular daily basis. What brings about chaos in your life? Feel free to share in the comments!

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Go Take a Walk Outside: Outside Looking In

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We often find ourselves in a place where we cannot seem to figure out what to do in a certain situation. We consult with friends, family, co-workers, teachers, therapists, and sometimes complete strangers! All of this is done to gain insight to make a decision that we simply cannot make on our own. When our backs are against the wall everything moves quickly. The room spins.  We see what is in front of us and what is in our peripherals. This is why we are unable to calm down, think, and come up with a solution.

Are you tired of saying, Why didn’t I think of that? Well that makes sense! Oh,  I see!, along with any number of Ah ha!  phrases everytime a member of your support team solves all of your problems?  If you are, then read on.  This just might help you out the next time your back is against the wall.

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The difference between you and your support team during a difficult situation is location. Your placement during tough times is right there in the trenches. While others are viewing your situation from the outside. It is a lot easier to solve a problem when you are able to see every aspect of the situation. We can all tell the lady in the scary movies to avoid going up the stairs. We can all tell our friends to avoid a certain resturant because of poor service. We can all warn our co-workers of the traffic on the way to work.  Why is this possible? Simple. Because we have already been there. Also, because we are now on the outside looking in. 

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It is now time for you to take a walk outside. Take a walk outside and see what everyone else sees.  Meaning, remove yourself from the situation and look at what is really going on around you. You have to get a better view, a better idea of what is really happening in your life.  If you are constantly coping with the stresses of life, and never stop to take inventory of your life. You will never be able to figure out what is really going on.

Let’s just say you are having financial problems.  I’m sure anyone who is on the outside will be able to solve your money woes quickly! Why?  Because they are not tied to your lifestyle. They don’t need that pricey car. They don’t need all of the channels the cable provider is willing to shove down your throat. Those on the outside recognize reality over “necessity”. It’s also easier to recognize error when one has made and corrected those same behaviors.

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It’s time to let go of your stress and go take a walk outside! It is time to view your life the way other’s may view it. It is time to slow down and observe from the outside and realize what is really unfolding in your life!

Invisibly Ill

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As you walk into the Emergency Room, you notice a man coughing. He is coughing so hard you just know he will hack up his lungs any minute now.

To your left are some kids. One has a bag of ice wrapped in a towel over her right eye. The older boy, who appers to be her older brother has a golf ball sized knot over his left eye. 

Amongst the sea of ER waiting room people, there is no denying why they are present. But you walk in and check yourself in.  You have a seat and immediately you feel out of place.

There are dozens of people who have been waiting for hours before you even set foot into the building. However, you are the next name called into the triage room. The waiting area erupts with anger and profanity.

Why is SHE going before ME?! 
WTF?!, I’ve been here for HOURS!!
I  simply don’t understand.

The chatter continues as you close the triage room door and sit in the cold hard blue chair against the wall. You confirm your name and date of birth. The nurse asks for the reason of your visit to the Emergency Room, and you respond…

“I just want the pain to end.  I am tired of being depressed. I have a full bottle of pain pills in my purse and I debated with myself for the past two hours if I should take them all or go to the ER.  Well,  here I am.”

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There are plenty of people who are depressed all across the world. The pain they feel may never be known to others, but it is real. Some depressed people look and act as if nothing is wrong when mixing and mingling amongst society, but behind closed doors the tears stream down their faces. Their homes may be neglected. They may over eat or not eat at all.  There may be sleepless nights or binge sleeping every weekend.

It’s not socially acceptable to fall apart in front of your peers, co workers, or strangers. You are supposed to “keep it together” and “not let your personal life blend in with your work/school life.” This has brought a great deal of people to a place of having to cope alone.

Many people with a depressive illness never seek treatment. But the majority, even those with the most severe depression, can get better with treatment. Medications, psychotherapies, and other methods can effectively treat people with depression.

Source: National Institute of Mental Health

No one should have to remain “invisibly ill.” Take the necessary measures to help someone who you know is depressed.  If anyone ever asks you if you have a second, they just want to talk…DROP EVERYTHING AND LISTEN!! If that’s not possible get a general idea of what’s going on and maybe you could schedule some time to listen later.

Most of the time people just need someone to listen to their story. That is the best way to help, and get the ball rolling to recovery. If you do not feel you can help, let them know you are there for them and you will help them get through the depression.  You can help them search for counselors, therapists, psychiatrists, and support groups. If they need you for support and to accompany them to appointments, do so. That would help greatly.

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It might be  a long road…but having someone concerned about your mental health can make the journey better.

Here are some tips from the National Institute of Mental (NIMH) and a link to the NIMH website…

To help your friend or relative

•Offer emotional support, understanding, patience, and encouragement.

•Talk to him or her, and listen carefully.

•Never dismiss feelings, but point out realities and offer hope.

•Never ignore comments about suicide, and report them to your loved one’s therapist or doctor.

•Invite your loved one out for walks, outings and other activities. Keep trying if he or she declines, but don’t push him or her to take on too much too soon.

•Provide assistance in getting to the doctor’s appointments.

•Remind your loved one that with time and treatment, the depression will lift.

National Institute of Mental Health Website

**Disclaimer: I am not doctor or any other healthcare professional. I am simply a blogger who is greatly concerned for the mental health of others. If you or someone you know is depressed follow the links to the National Institute of Mental Health for more information on depression.**

K. A. Smith

K. A. Smith

Changing Others By Changing Yourself: Creating a Better Life

ImageThe past week or so has been pretty rough for me.  There were ups, and there were downs.  Unexpected twists and turns became the norm for me, but days passed, and life got better.  In fact it became better than it had been in years!  Some times in life we focus on the things others do to hurt us, but there is not much we can do to change other people.

 

During this past week, I realized that a change in self may be all that is needed to bring you to a better place.  Why are people mistreating you?  Why is everything going wrong?  Why do I keep messing up? Instead of shutting people out of your life, or trying to change them, try looking at yourself.  Take some time to sit in silence, and just think.  What is it that you don’t like about yourself?  What is that negative thing about you others always seem to point out? There is a common thread there somewhere, and you need to locate it and work on changing it. 

There is a good chance that your negative ways are poisoning your relationships, and indirectly hindering the successes you desire.  Admit one of your negative personality traits today.  Don’t just admit it to yourself, admit it to someone you may have hurt or offended with that behavior.  Next, you may have to do some research, meditating, or praying to open your mind to changing.  Knowing the benefits to modifying your behavior can also help you on your journey of a better you.  Finally, be consistent. You might feel like giving up initially, but in the long run it is well worth it.  

Is there something about you that is ruining your relationships?  Is there something that you never really liked about yourself, and finally want to change? Do you have any advice for someone who is trying to change bad habits or better themselves in life? Please share in the comments, I would love to discuss this topic with you!

 

Colorful Personalities| What Does Your Favorite Color Say About You?

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I am sitting here as my two year old son eats a pack of fruit snack gummy candies. The package is orange, and the candies inside are either red, purple, green,  blue,  yellow, or orange. He is instantly excited about the orange package. He tells me, “Orange Mommy”, while chewing on one of the candies. He always recognizes orange, and appears more interested in that particular color.

Now, I am wondering if orange is his favorite color. This lead me to wonder about what your favorite color says about your personality. I recall reading about this type of personality quiz a while back and decided to Google to see what the color orange would reveal.

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Here is the site I went to. My curiosity about what my own favorite color would reveal caused me to go straight to purple. After reading the description, and asking my husband for a second opinion, I concluded my favorite color does not describe me at all! 

Purple: Purples are highly individual, fastidious, witty and sensitive, with a strong desire to be unique and different. Temperamental, expansive and artistic, a Purple person may become aloof and sarcastic when misunderstood. If you chose Purple, you tend to be unconventional, tolerant and dignified, likely to achieve positions of authority.

On to orange…

Orange: This color of luxury and pleasure appeals to the flamboyant and fun-loving person who likes a lively social round. Orange people may be inclined to dramatize a bit, and people notice them, but they are generally good-natured and popular. They can be a little fickle and vacillating, but on the whole they try hard to be agreeable. Orange is the color of youth, strength, fearlessness, curiosity and restlessness.

This describes my two year old perfectly! He is so filled with life and adventure. There is never, and I mean never a dull moment with him.

Take a look at the website and see if your favorite color matches your personality!
Feel free to comment with your results.

By the way…I am really a maroon!

K. A. Smith

Daily Prompt| Conflict Resolution

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How do I handle conflict? You’re wrong and I’m right! It’s my way or the highway!  I’m joking! Or am I? More

Just Your Average…Yet Not So Average Girl

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I have been encouraged by a fellow blogger to write about a time from my younger days. He is a an awesome writer and a great supporter!  Check out his blog here!

In elementary, middle, and high school, I was not Ms. Popular, but I was known. I wasn’t an outcast, I was liked by many. I was easygoing, fun to be around, and LOVED to laugh and have fun. My G.P.A.  was usually between a 3.5 and a 4.0. I was on the dance team, BETA club, 4-H, French Club, along with other organizations. Science fairs?  I won them. Gifted and Talented?  I was in that program too. I was a teacher’s pet, but I was never bullied.  I usually had one or two good friends at a time. I could have hung with the crowd, but usually chose not to. I think I had it pretty good in school.

I don’t really have any defining moments while in school. I was just the loud, fast talking, fun, light skinned, long jet black hair,short, smart, pretty, funny, crazy (in a good way), manipulative, long nails with designs wearing, girl who worked at Winn-Dixie behind the Customer Service Counter. I had a way with words and had no problem telling you how you made me feel. I liked to talk, hang out with my friends, dance, play baseball, play video games with my brother, write to my pen pals, read, write, sing (never was any good at it, but I enjoyed it), listen to music, and push my parents’ buttons to date.

Oh the good ol’ days! 

K. A. Smith

In Your Dreams

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There is something so amazing about dreams. Some people can recall every detail of a dream. While others, like myself, only remember bits and pieces. These bits and pieces usually end up fading away the further away from the dream I get.

I particularly like dreams because they don’t actually exist. Well at least mine don’t. I am sure there is at least one person who will tell me otherwise, and I don’t disagree. I am just speaking from my own personal accounts.  My dreams take place during sleep, and that world no longer exists when I am awaken. Usually, I don’t see myself in dreams. I tend to see through my eyes, as I do outside of a dream. I don’t recognize the people or the places. My dreams tend to blend themselves together somehow. For example, I could be in a subway, and then I take a couple of steps and I am in a diner!  It’s like I walked through a wall, but I didn’t.

I really enjoy dreams because they exist and then it’s as if they never happened. My dreams rarely repeat, and 95%  of them don’t make it past one minute of me being awake. I don’t mind it. It just makes dreams more magical and mysterious. I think I will actually try to document as much of my dreams from now on. They just might make for some good blogging!

K. A. Smith

Consistently Inconsistent

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Bad habits don’t change overnight, and are usually hard to escape. Good habits are often difficult to establish, and maintaining them can be an even greater challenge.

The rule of thumb is it takes 30 days to change a habit. My problem is, I never get to day 30. There is always some interruption. Which usually leads to me becoming lazy. I have an excuse for why I can’t complete the task. I am consistently inconsistent.

I want so much, but I can never be as motivated as I should be. I will never see results until I am consistently consistent. Hopefully writing this will hold me accountable for all of my procrastinating, lazy ways.  Tomorrow is a new day and brings forth opportunities to get myself together.

K. A. Smith

Hidden

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There are trees behind the fog.
There are smiles behind the lies.
There is no way to see it all.
There is a feeling in disguise.

K. A. Smith

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